“To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground.”

The above is a quote by Steven Covey that I like very much.

I guess I like it because:

I have on occasions felt the complete peace of walking on such ground .. or have been witness to some other walking on such ground.. at moments like that it feels so good to be human….

I feel this is such an important part of the  human experience that I need to cultivate this into a regular habit in myself..  To be honest I have been trying for much of my life but emotional traits like fear, anger, guilt, shame, desire, greed etc often get in the way. And I see the same thing going on in most of humanity.

However if we understood these emotional traits better, I think humanity would display much greater emotional intelligence then at present.

One way to achieve a greater understanding in the present educational system would be to include  Emotional Intelligence as a subject into the curriculum.. the way say biology is at the moment…

Other then that I guess it is every parents responsibility to get clued up on emotional intelligence and teach their children.

Anyway here are some other quotes from Steven that I like alot…

“Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic”

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

“We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey.”

“It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.”

“I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow.”

“Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.”

“Admission of ignorance is often the first step in our education.”

“How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most.”

“We are free to choose our actions, . . . but we are not free to choose the consequences of these actions.”

Every human has four endowments- self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.

“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”

 


Love, Children, and the World

Love, Children, and the World

By María José López Álvarez

According to scientists, studies are demonstrating the existence of a marked relationship between how we are treated during birth and the child rearing period and the way we relate to the world as adult individuals.

Michel Odent argues that the mother-child bond is the base from which all other forms of love spring –including the love for Mother Earth–, and speaks of the existence of a critical period during and after birth with long term consequences for the individual’s future capacity to love. Odent’s work has found a relationship between juvenile crime, suicide, and autism, among others, and certain risk factors surrounding the birthing period, such as forceps delivery, the use of anaesthetics, birth induction, and immediate separation of mother and baby.

He maintains that, for millennia, the survival strategies of numerous societies have been based on the domination of nature and other human groups, and that their violent behaviour stems from aggressive beliefs and rituals surrounding birth –in our society, practices such as unnecessary birth interventions and mother-infant separation after delivery. Thus, he believes that, in order to create a peaceful society and to heal the environment, we need a change in the occidental obstetric model as a fundamental prerequisite, i.e. the humanizing of birth and the empowerment of mothers to trust their bodies as powerful and as conceived and designed for bringing life into the world.[1]

Jean Liedloff claims that, due to cultural practices, occidental societies have separated in a very short time-span from the evolutionary continuum in harmony with the environment in which the human species evolved. As a primate, the human baby expects to be carried in arms, to be breastfed, and to sleep beside his/her carer.[2] This is the baby’s continuum or, in Nils Bergman’s words, the infant’s “natural habitat”. When the baby is separated from his natural habitat, he shows a series of responses designed to call for his mother. In these circumstances, the baby is under stress and, in the event that his calls are unsuccessful, he can reach a state known as “dissociation” [3], during which the combination of stress hormones and toxic chemicals produced in the brain may cause the death of brain cells, which can in turn affect the individual’s future behaviour and his vulnerability to mental illness.[4]

James Prescott’s work shows that in different cultures, certain variables of infant affection, such as playing with children, caressing them, holding them or breastfeeding, are inversely related to crime and violence variables, such as frequency of robberies, murders, etc.[5] That is, the more affectionate the adults are towards their children, the less violent that society is.

So, our brain seems to respond to the way we are treated from the moment we come into the world: empathy, compassion, and love are imprinted in it through sensory stimuli such as breastfeeding, touch, skin to skin contact, etc. Joseph Chilton Pearce believes that this is our biological plan as a species (i.e. our brains are designed to be hardwired for love) and that, when it does not happen, it is because culture is interfering with biology.[6]

There is yet another determining factor in the way we relate to our environment: contact with nature. Occidental societies are steering towards a total lack of this type of contact from infancy. As Aric Sigman states: “We’re witnessing the ecological equivalent of an attachment disorder whereby the child’s separation from Mother Nature causes a failure to bond properly with her and to go on to establish and maintain a caring relationship thereafter.”[7]

The relationship is also reciprocal: Richard Louv has adopted the term “Nature-Deficit Disroder” to describe the health problems associated with the alienation we are suffering from nature: diminished use of the senses, attention difficulties, and higher rates of physical and emotional illness.[8] Health problems increase with the time children spend in front of the screen, which, according to recent studies affects learning ability independently of the programme’s content. Occidental society is substituting “videofilia” (love of the screen) for “biophilia” (love of life).[9]

We shouldn’t be surprised if, as human beings brought up in this environment, we find it difficult to build communities which care for others and for the environment: environmental degradation and the severity of war have known no precedent in human history.

Where, then, lies the solution? In my opinion, it is in our very hands and hearts: we can start with informing ourselves, getting support, and advocating for birth with no unnecessary interventions; breastfeeding our children and supporting others who breastfeed; carrying our babies in our arms as much as possible without fear of spoiling them; sleeping with our children, playing with them, talking to them, taking them out to Nature, and reducing their exposure to screen time. As Pam Leo, author of “Connection Parenting” affirms: “How you treat the child, the child will treat the world”.

María José López Álvarez is a former La Leche League Leader, a biologist, and the mother of three beautiful children: Sebastian (7), Clara (5), and Alejandro (2 months).


[1] Odent M, 1999. The Scientification of Love. London: Free Association Books.

[2] Liedloff J. The Continuum Concept.

[3] Bergman N, 2005. The Physiology of Skin to Skin Contact.  II International Breastfeeding Symposium: Kangaroo Mother Care. Bilbao: La Leche League Spain.

[4] Buckley S, 2009. Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering. A Doctor’s Guide to Natural Childbirth and Gentle Early Parenting Choices. Celestial Arts.

[5] Presscott J.

[6] Pearce JC, 2007. The Death of Religion and the Rebirth of Spirit. A Return to the Intelligence of the Heart. Rochester, Vermont: Park Street Press.

[7] Sigman A, 2009. Videophilia. Resurgence No. 254, May/June, 16-17.

[8] Louv R, 2005. Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder. Workman Publishing.

[9] Sigman A, 2005. Remotely Controlled: How Television is Damaging Our Lives –and What We Can Do About It. Vermilion Press.


How should children be educated? Como educar a los ninos?

Well, everyone has their own ideal. Mine ring similarly with my friend Carmen Acevedo, who has  and is working tirelessly to improve the curriculum,  with respect to a much greater emphasis on childrens emotional development. Creativity and expression through dance is one of her tools.

Do check out her website below, especially if you are involved with teaching children.

Bueno, cada persona tiene su opinion y el mio concuerda con la de mi amiga Carmen Acevedo. “El objetivo de nuestro proyecto es conseguir la implantación de una asignatura obligatoria de Educación Emocional en los colegios e institutos.”

http://www.educacionparalapaz.com


Sir Ken Robinson: Do schools kill creativity? Las escuelas matan la creatividad?

Hi all, its HOT and I am chiling under the ceiling fan.. any other place is not worth thinking about.. If you have children or are interested in childrens education this is a must watch imo 🙂

Hola todos, hace mucho calor y esta sintado muy cerca del aire condicionado..  Si tienes ninos, o tienes interes en educacion de los ninos este video es muy interesante en mi opinion.  🙂


John Taylor Gatto- “Dumbing us down”

If the below is of interest to you please youtube JTG as there is a fair bit of material  to choose from.

http://www.johntaylorgatto.com/bookstore/dumbdnblum1.htm

No one in America today is better qualified to report on the true condition of our government education system than John Taylor Gatto New York City Teacher of the Year, the now-famous educator who spent 26 years teaching in six different schools in New York City and quit because he could no longer take part in a system that destroys lives by destroying minds.

“The trouble was that the unlikeliest kids kept demonstrating to me at random moments so many of the hallmarks of human excellence—insight, wisdom, justice, resourcefulness, courage, originality—that I became confused.  They didn’t do this often enough to make my teaching easy, but they did it often enough that I began to wonder, reluctantly, whether it was possible that being in school itself, was what was dumbing them down.  Was it possible I had been hired not to enlarge children’s power, but to diminish it?  That seemed crazy on the face of it, but slowly I began to realize that the bells and confinement, the crazy sequences, the age-segregation, the lack of privacy, the constant surveillance, and all the rest of the national curriculum of schooling were designed exactly as if someone had set out to prevent children from learning how to think, and act, to coax them into addiction and dependent behavior.”

Now tie this with the words of Edward Bernays, Fichte regarding education (they are on this blog) and watch the jigsaw puzzle slowly come together.

Theres many other pieces too, but its like finding a needle in a haystack and the average person does not have the time and often the will.. to find them because  the picture that forms is hard to accept as it offers a different reality.. one that very often scares people so they end up attacking it … thats ok. Not everyone is ready to face drastic change in any form.. I empathise completely.


Bertrand Russell quotes Fichte- “education should aim at destroying free will”

Bertrand Arthur William Russell, 3rd Earl Russell (1872-1970) was a renowned British philosopher and mathematician who was an adamant internationalist and worked extensively on the education of young children. He was the founder of the Pugwash movement which used the spectre of Cold War nuclear annihilation to push for world government. Among many other prizes, Russell was awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1950 and UNESCO’s (United Nations Educational, Scientific, and Cultural Organization) Kalinga prize in 1957.

Bertrand Russell wrote in his  book entitled The Impact of Science on Society (1952)  that:

“It is to be expected that advances in physiology and psychology will give governments much more control over individual mentality than they now have even in totalitarian countries.

Fichte laid it down that, education should aim at destroying free will, so that, after pupils have left school, they shall be incapable, throughout the rest of their lives, of thinking or acting otherwise than as their schoolmasters would have wished. But in his day this was an unattainable ideal: what he regarded as the best system in existence produced Karl Marx. In future such failures are not likely to occur where there is dictatorship.

Diet, injections, and injunctions will combine, from a very early age, to produce the sort of character and the sort of beliefs that the authorities consider desirable, and any serious criticism of the powers that be will become psychologically impossible.

Even if all are miserable, all will believe themselves happy, because the government will tell them that they are so.

Above was written so long ago yet it reflects what is happening today, IMO. I find this kind of stuff eerie… yet enlightening  I don’t wear rose tinted glasses like I used to.


How Raman and Priyanka beat chronic asthma and eczema


Here I share with you how our son Raman (10 years old at the time) and 6 year old daughter Priyanka cured themselves of two awful conditions suffered increasingly by many children nowadays.

Chronic asthma and

chronic eczema!

“I had a stressful first pregnancy with Raman. I had had an emotional roller coaster of a time the previous few years due to my lifestyle choices and health (I had debilitating chronic rheumatoid arthritis from my early teenage years).

Being pregnant left me feeling vulnerable and alone. Raman was born 4 weeks early… his due date was 16th of November and here I was giving birth on the 19th of October 1988.

My antenatal class nurse had arranged for us to do a walk to the labour ward that night so you can imagine how all the other mums to be laughed when they found me already there tucked up in bed with my baby!

It was a lovely sunny day when we brought our tiny son home, and somehow I knew we were all going to be fine someday…

He was born without asthma or eczema but as he progressed towards school age his health seemed progressively worst every year. At first he developed eczema all round his ankle. This turned into an open wound.  I had to work along with my husband to repay the massive mortgage we had taken on. We had negative equity on our house like many house buyers in the early 90’s.

So I looked for a childminder. One childminder looked at his eczema and refused on the grounds that it looked too ghastly!

My beautiful friend Sameena despite being pregnant offered to look after him but deep inside Raman was not happy and I could see it. I wasn’t either because I missed him. So I stopped working after 2 years.

Despite the tight money situation we found ourselves in, it was one of the best decisions of my life. We had a lovely few months together. He nagged me for a sister everyday! “I want a sister … Danny has got a sister!” He would exclaim.  Danny was his friend and our neighbour’s son. Well his wish was granted when Priyanka arrived on the 16th of November 1992.

16th November was the day he was supposed to be born!

She was so beautiful and calm that everyone kept exclaiming “what a peaceful baby!” Raman was overjoyed and being 4 years old assumed the role of Priyanka’s shadow and my little helper.

This role turned into nearly a full time job when Priyanka developed the most horrendous eczema I have ever seen in my life straight after her immunisations at 8 weeks old. I pleaded with my doctor as to why she had got eczema, and so bad? He comforted me by telling me:-

“Eczema is often started by a trigger. You cannot have a bigger trigger then injecting deadly organisms into a baby.”

So I exclaimed, “Why vaccinate in that case?” He replied, “Would you rather have a dead baby or a baby with eczema…”

His words consoled me at the time but later the following thought came into my head…  cancer has increased since the onset of vaccinations… so is it a choice between your child  dying by cancers or mumps measles rubella diphtheria, whooping cough, and whatever else is in the vaccinations?…

The suffering I experienced and that my poor daughter experienced I would not wish on anyone.

One day she sat there on the carpet tearing at her head at the age of two years with clenched teeth… I sat next to her and my tears just kept streaming down silently. She glanced up momentarily and on noticing I was crying she stopped scratching and quietly with a steady penetrating gaze said,

“Don’t worry mummy.”

Well that just blew my mind … The maturity with which she reacted and the manner of her speech was way beyond that of a child only just turned two years old. Those words strengthened my resolve to never give up on her and find a cure for her.

I would dream of the day when I could put pretty clothes on my daughter without her looking and being like an open wound.

Around this time Raman started looking a bit podgy and started having breathing problems.

The doctor diagnosed asthma. The same time he developed hay fever too…. It reminded me of me years earlier…The most heinous arthritis pain started the same month and year as my hay fever….

Raman was given ventolin and becotide (A steroidal drug) to control the asthma. He carried on putting more weight and people would tell me my kids are healthy. They were both big for there age size wise. This being the measurement of health, I would half heartedly nod in agreement.

Two years later at the age of four Priyanka joined Raman in the chronic asthma rank… Strangely her eczema improved ever so slightly, mainly from the face.

She still couldn’t go out in the sun. During her fourth year I took her out on a hot day. We just walked to the local shops and back. Her whole body turned red. She looked radioactive and she clawed and scratched at her skin until she was so exhausted that she fell asleep.

I had suffered so much sleep depravation in all these years since the onset of her eczema that I felt a total wreak.

In 1996 I applied for disability benefit and asked to be registered disabled. Something my ego had battled against for twenty years. I was crushed, caved in, flat out.

I thought I had about two years of life left in me before I got cancer or heart disease or something else equally ugly…

Well two years later our very close friend’s 3 year old son got cancer and while looking for a cure for him, Derek my husband found the raw food lifestyle that helped cure Priyanka, Raman and me.

There recovery was so quick (3 months) that it left a permanent smile on my face!

I would like to add, they would not have healed had they fought the dietary changes. They agreed to try a raw food detox lifestyle, leaving me and my husband humbled and proud to have such amazing children who did what most adults struggle with… healthy changes.

I  once was one such adult…

Their story continues with many twists and turns. They are know 21 and 17. They know what to do to heal themselves, however they are the birds that have been set free and they are experiencing life for themselves. And that is how life should be.

We are all responsible for our own resurrection.  In my eyes there is no ONE right way to live. Every human is unique and their truth on life the universe comes from their unique experiences and feelings.

So who am I or anyone to force my truth.. I can share it…ultimately it is each individuals freedom to leave it or take on board..